9 responses to “The Season of Breasts”

  1. Nan & Tom

    Catherine,
    Thank you for not staying silent and letting us see into the window of what your process has been and continues to be. We see you! We care! Hugs to you.

  2. Amy

    Thanks Catherine. This was well said.

  3. kim

    I’m angry with you, Catherine. When my mom was diagnosed, her doctors basically refused to perform a double mastectomy and pushed for reconstruction, which turned out to be the most painful and debilitating part of her cancer journey. That is until three years down the road when she was diagnosed with cancer in her other breast. And now the doctors are unwilling to discuss undoing the original reconstruction so she can just be balanced and, hopefully, done with cancer for good.

    1. pinkisnotmycolor

      Oh Kim…I am so sorry, I had no idea your mom was going through this. Emailing you “off blog”…

  4. Clare C.

    You make your case well, Catherine. I love your writing and Audre Lorde always inspires awe. I had no idea that so much was involved with reconstructing breasts (and I personally like the flat-chested look). But … I can’t help but think that the choice of to reconstruct or not to reconstruct (in Shakespearean language) is better than no choice at all.

    I agree that to stay silent, to “pass,” if you will, comes with a price, but perhaps many women want the reconstruction partly because they do not want to be identified primarily as “cancer survivors,” or to be defined by a disease. Is that not their decision to make?

    Part of the issue is, of course, that the female breast is loaded with meaning and associations and symbolism beyond their actual purpose (the nursing of young).

    In any case, I more than respect your decision. Reading about your experience has opened up my eyes to the utter and complete invasiveness of breast reconstruction. But I wouldn’t want that decision to be made for me–in breast reconstruction or anything else involving my body. Thanks for making me think. Peace (and still hoping to see you in August), Clare

    1. pinkisnotmycolor

      Clare, Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I am absolutely open to all opinions on this matter, and my feelings on reconstruction, passing, and even my own choice to have a double mastectomy morph in color and shape every day, so please know that all of this is a work in progress. My reply to you got so long, that I decided to make a new post out of it : )

  5. Mary

    Catherine,

    Thanks for writing truth to power, about mastectomies, the pink-verse, and reconstruction. I can’t tell you how reassuring it is to read thoughts that resonate so powerfully with my own experiences, which I wrote about here –
    On Reconstruction
    http://brys.wordpress.com/category/reconstruction/

    On Mastectomies and the Recon Culture
    http://brys.wordpress.com/category/mastectomy/

    Keep writing. It’s so important to speak out. I hope I get to meet you some day.

    Mary

  6. Julie Timm

    I am not sure how I so fortunately stumbled upon your blog. I am one week post op from my double mastectomies for bilateral cancer. I have been adamant about not reconstructing myself for many of the same reasons you have shared in your writings. I did sit through the boob sales lady’s lecture aka the plastic surgeon and felt mortified about every option presented. Of most importance, my husband, my mother and my three beautiful boys have been very supportive of my decision to not reconstruct. The medical community, on the other hand, has not been supportive at all even saying my decision is controversial. I do know that later and do a little bit now grieve the loss of a part of myself but know if I had woken up with someone else’s boobs crafted on my chest that I would grieve every time it would see them. Thank you for writing about your journey. I look forward to reading more of it these next few days as I sit here waiting for the drainage to lessen to get these tubes out. Uncomfortable is the wrong term for them. More like a hot poker to the chest with every movement. Thank you again!

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